It can be challenging to talk to your teen about counseling or seeing a psychiatrist, but there are a few things you can do to make the conversation easier. Choosing the right time and place to have this talk is important. Choose a time when both you and your teen are relaxed and not rushed, frustrated or angry. Pick a private and comfortable location. Find a place where you can have an open and honest conversation without being interrupted or overheard. Make sure the location is comfortable and allows for a safe space to discuss sensitive topics and possibly even space for your teen to move around as they become uncomfortable.
How to Start the Conversation about Therapy or Psychiatry with Your Teen
Start by expressing your concerns using “I” statements rather than blaming, shaming or accusing your teen. Let your teen know that you are worried about them and that you think they might benefit from talking to someone who can help.
Focus on your teen’s feelings and try to understand their perspective on the matter. Empathize with them and try to relate to their concerns. Practice active listening by letting your teen express their thoughts and feelings without interrupting or judging them.
Emphasize that seeking help is a sign of strength. You can share with them that many people, including teens, movie stars, performers, authors, teachers, and more, struggle with mental health issues, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Normalize the idea of therapy or counseling by letting your teen know that seeking help is a common thing to do. You can mention that many people see therapists or counselors at some point in their lives.
Discuss the benefits of counseling or seeing a counselor or psychiatrist. Talk to your teen about how counseling or seeing a psychiatrist and even taking medication can help them feel better, manage stress, and improve their relationships.
Encourage your teen to ask questions. Your teen may have questions or concerns about counseling or seeing a psychiatrist, so encourage them to ask you anything they want to know. Try to answer their questions honestly and without judgment.
A Sample Script For Speaking With Your Teen About Therapy or Psychiatry
Here’s an example script for talking to your teen about counseling or seeing a psychiatrist:
“Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something important. I’ve noticed that you’ve been struggling with (insert concern here) and I’m worried about you. I want you to know that it’s okay to feel the way you do, and you’re not alone. A lot of people go through tough times and need help sometimes.
I was thinking that it might be helpful for you to talk to someone who can help you work through your feelings and provide us with some guidance. There’s no shame in seeking help, and it can be a sign of strength.
I want you to know that I’m here to support you in any way I can, and we can find a counselor or psychiatrist that you feel comfortable with.
How do you feel about the idea of talking to someone?
Do you have any questions or concerns that you’d like to talk about?”
What Not to Do: Common Mistakes to Avoid When Talking to Your Teen about Therapy or Psychiatry
When talking to a teen about therapy or psychiatry, it's important to be mindful of certain "DONT’s" that can undermine the conversation and make it more difficult for your teen to feel comfortable seeking help. Here are some things to avoid:
Don't dismiss your teen's feelings: Avoid telling your teen that they are overreacting or that their feelings are not valid. Instead, validate their feelings and let them know that you understand how they are feeling.
Don't force your teen into therapy: While it's important to encourage your teen to seek help, forcing them into therapy or psychiatry can be counterproductive. It's important to give your teen the choice to seek help on their own terms. If your teen refuses therapy, read our article here for some tips.
Don't be judgmental: Avoid judging your teen for their feelings or for seeking help. Be supportive and open-minded, and let your teen know that you are there to help them in any way you can.
Don't make promises you can't keep: While it's important to support your teen, don't make promises that you can't keep. For example, don't promise that therapy or psychiatry will solve all of their problems, or that they will feel better immediately.
Don't ignore signs of distress: If your teen is showing signs of distress, such as self-harm or suicidal ideation, don't ignore them or brush them off. Take these signs seriously and seek help immediately.
Remember, the most important thing is to approach the conversation with empathy, compassion, and an open mind. By being supportive and understanding, you can help your teen feel comfortable seeking the help they need.
